tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1772601100788880462.post8784410311083811056..comments2023-04-04T04:44:18.911-07:00Comments on Helenina's Sanctuary: Create a connection: Believing mirrorsHélène Deroubaixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04599807193628120984noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1772601100788880462.post-72103201555007745312007-04-19T21:19:00.000-07:002007-04-19T21:19:00.000-07:00H...I answered about the swap in the other post, b...H...<BR/>I answered about the swap in the other post, but wanted you to know the answer is YES!!! Would be honored! You know me...just make what ever your heart tells you to...and I will do the same...We will swap address when you want...Thank you for thinking of me!<BR/>BELIEVE<BR/>PPatricia J. Moscahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16370400543375022824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1772601100788880462.post-46430515240927683752007-04-19T16:22:00.000-07:002007-04-19T16:22:00.000-07:00Helene, you are a great advocate and cheerleader f...Helene, you are a great advocate and cheerleader for the arts. You are also an inspiring woman who bears her soul and what she believes. I am lucky to call you friend, and look forward to a deeper connection. I agree with Jen, we all deserve all relationship that isn't just about serving our needs, but truly connecting common interests and growing together. You rock!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1772601100788880462.post-54965763282829755682007-04-18T16:35:00.000-07:002007-04-18T16:35:00.000-07:00Hi! I reached your blog by way of Jana's...which i...Hi! I reached your blog by way of Jana's...which is one of a handful that I have been visiting recently...I have not been blogging for very long. <BR/><BR/>I have read some of your older posts and so many of them make me want to comment. <BR/><BR/>I have been longing for the kind of friend that shares...who enjoys and can interact on many levels. What I feel I have not yet had is a certain kind of intimacy and of well-roundedness(best word I can think of now)..<BR/><BR/>Lots of people seem to be searching for connections...but this can mean different things to different people...maybe some want more of a relationship that truly develops over time, but are so busy trying to figure out with whom to invest the energy and the time..and maybe some are just looking for some particular mix of information about a person to reassure them that they are relationship material...<BR/><BR/>I think that some people end up with lots of different "friends"..each embodying only one part of a more <BR/>intimate relationship...lots more people I think, are able to find "the supporter"..."the cheerleader"..."the person to talk about common interests with"..."the person who seems to "get" one thing or another..the person who appreciates/needs support..<BR/>.<BR/>But a situation where each friend finds the other interesting...each is interested in listening...each is interested in supporting..each is interested in being supported..each is comfortable being themselves in the relationship and each is interested in building intimacy..and each has some commonalities/ideas that resonate..and each enjoys learning and each is not wanting to only know of one area, but is open to the differences in ideas/perspectives...and each is not looking for some preconceived mix of facts about the other...and each does not "pick and chose" what to respond to, but rather responds to the other sincerely..well, this is less common, I think, but so much more special.<BR/><BR/>(I don't like when I ask a question or make a comment and feel it is just left dangling. I do understand, I think that time each day is limited..but sometimes it does seem like it is a matter of a second or two...and I wonder about why there is not response...I can't help but take it as an indication that the person is not intersted in communication...and for a second -and sometimes, more...depending on the day.. I feel hurt, and discouraged). <BR/><BR/>I know it is too much to expect of someone...to make any long term commitment early on in any relationship...but sometimes I think, they try so hard not to "appear to have made a commitment that they think for any number of reasons could/would not continue"..that they just don't take the steps that could potentially lead to a deeper friendship<BR/><BR/>...the strings attatched are in their minds, I think...for if we can always just be true to ourselves at any given moment...we could be guided in these decisions as well and know that sometimes the outcome is as expected and sometimes not... <BR/><BR/><BR/>I think that "getting" each other is important to intimacy and long-lasting relationships...but I also think that it is the desire to want to "get" more and more and to be accepting and welcoming of change (in oneself and the friend) which is really key..<BR/><BR/>I am starting to read a book on Intimacy...it promises to teach about 7 levels of intimacy for relationships...both primary ones (spouse..) and so called secondary ones (friends)...<BR/><BR/>No matter how much we learn about ourselves and how comfortable we are in the moment and with the "journey", I think that the feeling of unhappiness is visible now and again...if there is not that feeling of being chosen and chosing another reciprocally to be that intimate friend.<BR/><BR/>Also, no matter how much we know we are living our passion--whether it be art or some other activities/work that is personally meaningful....without that intimacy...it at times, does not always feel to be "enough"<BR/><BR/>Maybe this isn't the case for some people or maybe there are different degrees of need for intimacy...just as some are happier with more independence and some less is fine.<BR/><BR/>Reading your blog..I find many common interests, but more than that, I see someone who, like myself, values the idea of friendship being rich with potential..<BR/><BR/>I wonder if you would feel similarly that friendship is not only for serving the "needs"(we all have them and I don't think they are bad or good necessarily) of each person and helping each to grow individually...<BR/><BR/>..it is a way to create something (relationship) that is dynamic and alive...not kept going just because of neediness or convenience, but because of genuine interest and commitment.<BR/><BR/>With busy lives and so many variables...it is a wonder that these relationships take root and grow.<BR/><BR/>I find your thoughts, emotions, and artistic creations interesting, important and beautiful. And I think you are quite brave to explore deeply this topic. I admire your ability to express yourself...I can relate to many feelings you express. I would like to meet you some day. : )<BR/><BR/>JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16277997546442140656noreply@blogger.com